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Well said, Hinnro.
There IS always something to be thankful for.
Cudos to you and your husband for rising above your ED’s behavior. Allowing your ED to spend the day with her brother is the right thing to do.
As a grandmother myself, I cannot imagine not being with my grandson. I am sorry for your pain.
Thank you all for your feedback. I do try not to focus on the negative-try to concentrate on the positive/the joy in my life (I still have a son and a stepson and daughter in law that are close) and the biggest joy in my life-my grandson.
Sheri, I thank you for creating this site-it has been such a help.
So happy for you and your family! God bless you all!
I am happy for you who have been able to reconcile with your EC’s and hopeful for the rest of us.
I agree with your perspective on this issue. I too am tired of the emotional abuse suffered at the hands of my ED, making me question my competency as a mother. I had already been through the same abuse at the hands of her father.
I have chosen to move on and concentrate on the positives in my life. I strive to treat others as I would want to be treated.
I wish my ED happiness and also that someday she willl realize that we are all flawed, including herself.
I agree with the above entries. As time goes on, you learn to get past these unexpected moments. Realize that this is something you cannot control and try to let it go.
There is a saying, and part of it goes: accept the things you cannot change.
Find peace and positivity in other aspects of your life.
Thank you all for the feedback. No matter how destructive my ED is, I will continue to try to be “humble and kind” as best I can. (Tim McGraw song-my present favorite).
Not that I am perfect, but because of this attitude, I continue to maintain a respectful relationship with my former in laws.
I will strive to not let my ED’s negative behavior turn my heart cold to others.
You all have a good week!
So sorry-this is not an anniversary we wished for.
I am a breast cancer survivor and have sometimes had thoughts of “would she even care if I passed?”
I have always told my children that “life is short and there are no reruns on life.”
It is difficult to just “write off” a child. It has been over a year and I have not “written off” my ED. I focus on my son and my “bonus son” (stepson), my daughter in law, husband, and my wonderful grandson.
You have made it through that first Mother’s Day without your ED. Having had to go through the same thing last year, I can tell you that last year’s Mother’s Day was tougher than this year-so take heart.
I have learned to focus on positives/blessings that I have in my life rather than focusing on the estrangement from my ED.
Hang in there!!!