Sheri McGregor: Podcast guest on Beyond the Pain channel

Thank you to Donald Stott for his work for parents of estranged adult children. He was a gracious host when I recently joined him on his show.  You can watch on YouTube or listen to the audio PODCAST

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19 thoughts on “Sheri McGregor: Podcast guest on Beyond the Pain channel

  1. HopefulMom

    Sheri – thank you for being the one person that understands and providing some tools to navigate this heart break. My 4 adult children have ALL (including 8 grands) been estranged for 9 months. I was married 30 years and have been divorced for 5. I waited until they were all settled to leave. (Big mistake). Fast forward to present. I wrote them a “final” goodbye basically telling them it was too painful to continue to reach out but would drop everything if they made contact. One did. I met them and now the story has turned into how terrible a mother I was. I prepared for the meeting and apologized. I did say I had another perception but acknowledged their viewpoint. I asked what we can do to move forward and received a vague answer. I was told the others would be reaching out as well. My first reaction was to defend and point out everything I did for all of them but I held back. I was told that there is more to talk about but that was enough for the day (stories that went back 25+ years and did NOT happen). None of this was ever brought up until an argument happened between my bf and one of my children). While the conversation did include I love you and we will start talking more, I can’t help feeling this sense of dread for our next meeting. I thought this is what I wanted but it was so left field I think im in shock. How do I prepare for future meetings? I have millions of pictures and memories of good parenting. They had a home cooked meal every night. They were involved in every activity possible. I only started my career when half of them had already moved out of the house. I’ve been accused of so many horrible things. Any advice is appreciated.

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  2. Pam J.

    Thank you, thank you and thank you again Sheri. I have read both of your books and they are my go to emotional help whenever I have self doubts or guilt feelings. I have an estranged daughter who us now in her late 40’s, she has been totally estranged from her dad but semi with me. She can be very abusive and generally only contacts me for money. I have been reading on your website for many years and find other estranged parent’s experiences and guidance invaluable.

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    1. rparents Post author

      Thank you, Pam! I’m grateful to be able to help, and I’m sorry your about your daughter. You mention self-doubt and guilt … They pop in to many of us from time to time, and I’m happy my books help you show those two the door!

      Hugs to you, Pam.

      Sheri McGregor

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  3. Michelle M.

    Recently talked to a younger friend who lost both her parents to unhealthy lifestyles. They were not great parents and they had messy lives. But, she says a day doesn’t go by that she wishes they were around. She does not get how many of her generation get mad and simply walk away. She feels she has missed out of the family dynamic and her daughter will never have the grandparent piece. It made me sad that my kids have tossed me aside for the new wife and family. It was always my fear that i would lose second child and that was realized in college with constant support from her older sister and dad.

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    1. rparents Post author

      Oh Michelle, that sounds like unhealthy coercion, them “supporting” your second child to cut you off. But … your younger friend sounds like a good person. Go have coffee together … tell jokes and laugh together at least a little.

      Hugs to you!

      Sheri

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  4. Kathleen M.

    Dearest Sheri,
    I so enjoyed your interview with Donald. It was obvious to me that Donald is, like the rest of us, in pain. My heart goes out to him. My heart is also grateful I found you.
    I have read both of your books. I have read many chapters of your books over and over again. In short, your books opened my eyes to moving ahead and living my valuable life. I keep both books in my nightstand and pull them out whenever I am feeling weakened by estrangement. Although I do have my sad moments, your books have kept me afloat and encouraged me to continue my moving forward. I would not be who and where I am today without you.
    My sincerest gratitude,
    Kathy M.

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    1. rparents Post author

      Kathy,
      Thank you for your generous and kind words here. And thank goodness you said
      my books OPENED your eyes and not closed them (as in put you to sleep)!
      🙂
      Stay afloat, dear Kathy.

      Hugs,
      Sheri McGregor

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      1. Carrie-Ann

        Reading Beautiful Sheri’s reply to Kathy…(Smiling to myself)…I do have to say that Beautiful Sheri’s books have put me to sleep…Deep Restful…Peaceful…Sleep…As I read these books I was Awakened to the reality that I was not so alone and that Beautiful Sheri and others shared these painful experiences and suffering…Reading both books I found myself falling asleep after almost non-stop reading sessions… Nurturing my Heart & Mind…I so needed my Mind & Body to rest and let the pain and situation play out…So in sleep the nightmares became less frequent and less overwhelming & daunting…

        At first I couldn’t focus enough to read the printed word…So I started listening to the 1st book in Audio during my morning shower…As I Listened to Beautiful Sheri’s words…The shower water poured down on me…As did the tears…Washing away the pain & sorrow that I felt deep within… Gradually I was able to focus…concentrate…and read the 1st book…Then I started working the Workbook…It was like a “Guide By My Side”…Then the 2nd book was published…No audio available at first…Reading the Beloved Parent sharing(s) and resources within the book gave me further Strength & Motivation to move on in my Life…With Radical Acceptance and Gratitude For My Precious Life…

        As I have shared in the past…I Will Forever Be In Deep Divine Gratitude For Each of You Beloved Parents & Beautiful Sheri…I was able to feel such Empathy for Each of You…To the point that while reading Your words describing Your stories…I began to feel anger…Anger at the Injustice… Unkindness…Unfairness…of how Each of You were and are being treated…used…& abused…What hit me the hardest was how Sweet…Loving…Caring…Concerned Each of You are for these Beloved ADULT estranged children…Despite their despicable unacceptable behavior…As well as the fact that most parents are still asking the question of WHY this estrangement is happening…

        Your pain broke my Heart wide-open for my own pain…Anger is old hurt…I was able to “meet it and invite it in for tea…and ask it to please share with me what it wanted me to know”…Anger served its purpose…Transmuting the pain into Radical Acceptance of the circumstances and injustice being experience that I will carry forth in my Life…So…the pain…loss… grief…Come & Go…Not staying “stuck” in these memories… feelings… Staying in the “Now Moment” that is One’s Precious Life… Reframing & Creating One’s Life In The Here & Now…Loving & Caring for the estranged ADULT children In Spirit…Releasing them to their Highest & Best…

        So Beautiful Sheri’s books are an on-going “go-to”…As “estrangement” is an on-going process…Her books are always close by…Practical-Down-To-Earth Nurturing the Mind…Body…& Spirit…Empowering for my next step…

        Just remember all people…places…and things Come & Go…Just Breathe… Enjoy Each Moment Of Your Precious Life…No matter what is happening or not happening…

        In Divine Gratitude For Each Of You Beloved Parents & For Beautiful Sheri & her Books helping me Sleep & Rest…As Well As Awakening to Choices…Options…Reframing One’s Life,
        Carrie-Ann
        p.s. I would like to say that I hope future audio-books will be narrated in Beautiful Sheri’s Own Soft & Kind Voice…I Absolutely Love the You-Tube sharings & podcast…I would Love to see an on-going Podcast by Sheri where she can discuss her books…parent letters…or whatever she wants to share…
        p.p.s. As I have also shared in the past…Each morning and each evening I come to this Beloved Online Healing Community to read what Each of Your Hearts are sharing…It is part of my Gratitude Healing process…My Prayers & Hugs Are Continually With Each Of You…

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  5. HealingWater

    I love how you say that you cannot tell people what to do. I believe listening, allowing the person (the estranged parent) to tell their story, and the fact that they know that you totally understand (because of your real-life experience) and that you do not judge, is just so comforting and helpful. You really make a difference in the world. Thank you.

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    1. rparents Post author

      Oh my goodness, HealingWater,
      Thank you. I hope my ears stay tuned to really hear. Parents are too often ignored or talked down to in this blame-the-parent era.

      Thank you again.

      Hugs,
      Sheri McGregor

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    1. rparents Post author

      I’m sorry, Jim. I love the soft music and have had many say they like it. I do keep it very low but I had no idea it might bother some people. You make me think.

      Thank you.
      Sheri McGregor

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  6. Penny S.

    Sheri,
    Goid job. Thank you being a beacon of light and joy on this topic. You always remind me that I am more than “estranged.” In a dark moment, I remember that I like to laugh, and life is meant to be lived. And in brighter moments, I don’t have to feel bad for liking myself enough not to waste my life on someone who disregarded me.

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    1. rparents Post author

      Penny,

      We can get all in our heads and feel bad but life is to live and enjoy. I think all of us need a reminder now and again.

      Hugs to you!

      Sheri McGregor

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  7. Diane H.

    Well done, Sheri, I know you must feel so often that you are repeating yourself, saying things over and over, but you are right, a few years ago no one was talking about this and now it’s more out there. This interview felt really sad, not surprisingly so, its a very sad subject – your interviewer looked most weary! I understand the exhaustion this situation brings with over active thoughts and self doubt constantly banging away. Our stories are sad, its good to be reminded that we are not the sum total of just this story, and there are more stories waiting. My message to all of those suffering with me is to get out our sassy pants and find joy and meaning from other parts of our lives. Live!!
    Thank you for your hard work and dedication, it is so much appreciated.

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